How to Write Your Vows
“My husband and I used Dr. Burns’ services for our wedding four years ago. So when my son got married there was no better person than Dr. Burns. They included a Wine box ceremony whereby a time capsule of their marriage was created and as each part was explained the guests were drawn in. It was amazing.”- Rose Mandart
Begin to write down your thoughts and feelings about the commitment you are making in marriage. What are you promising? What is your intention? Think about your loyalty, devotion, and faithfulness and what they mean to you. Write down whatever thoughts and phrases come to your mind. Don’t censor anything at this point and take your time in this process. Don’t be afraid to use humor if that’s your style.
Next review your ideas and highlight those most important to you. Where appropriate, begin to combine them with one of the following phrases: “I vow,” “I pledge,” I promise,” or “I commit.”
When ready, go through the first draft; edit or add in new thoughts. Practice saying your vows aloud; about thirty seconds to a minute is a good length. How do your vows sound? How do they feel when you say them? The process is complete when you say your vows and they flow and feel just right.
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Glossary of Wedding Vows
Writing your wedding vows can seem like a daunting task! It can be nerve racking coming up with words to express the love you feel for your fiancée and putting your promises on paper can be an emotional experience. Don’t leave this to the last minute because you may need a few days to mull over your ideas.
Personal Vows: Each of you writes your own statement of vows. I am happy to assist you in this process. These vows are usually different from one another.
Traditional Vows: An example of these time honored vows is: “I take you to be my lawfully wedded wife/husband, and I pledge to be loving and faithful, for better or for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, until death do us part.”
Contemporary Vows: These vows use contemporary language such as: “I promise to honor and tenderly care for you, to cherish and encourage your fulfillment through all the changes of our lives.”
Responsive Vows: With these vows, Dr. Janine makes a statement of your intention asking if you agree with it. You then respond by saying either: “I do; I will or I promise.”
From the Heart Vows: Not for the faint of heart, these vows are unplanned and unrehearsed. You declare your intentions and give your vows based upon your thoughts feelings in the moment.
Spiritual Vows: The essence of these vows is sacred in nature since they have a spiritual reference. An example is: “I promise to encourage and support you in our journey through life. I love you with an everlasting love. I accept that our relationship is Divinely Guided.”